Life doesn’t always go the way we plan.
Sometimes, we’re handed challenges that test us in ways we never imagined. For me, infertility has been one of those challenges—a journey filled with pain, longing, and countless lessons.
But here’s what I’ve learned along the way: Life is what it is.
Finding Peace in the Journey
You don’t have to follow the path everyone else is on. You don’t have to get married, have kids, or live your life according to society’s expectations. Your journey is your own, and it’s unfolding exactly as it should.
Trust in God’s plan for your life.
Stay focused on what you can control, and lean into the present moment. When you do, those feelings of despair will begin to fade.
Yes, there will be hard days—days when the weight of it all feels unbearable. But you will prevail, if that’s what you choose.
My Story
My infertility journey has been long, complicated, and often heartbreaking.
It took years to get a proper diagnosis. I was dismissed by countless doctors, who saw me as a “hypochondriac” simply because I kept showing up to work despite my symptoms. One even told me the lump in my right breast—now stage 4 metastatic breast cancer—was “all in my head” because my grandmother was battling cancer at the time. That was in 2005.
I could go into the details of every surgery, every round of chemo (yes, I was given Lupron, the same chemo used for prostate cancer), every moment of heartbreak hoping for a positive pregnancy test. I could tell you how infertility was the final straw in my marriage or how years of therapy and inner work helped me heal.
But the details don’t really matter.
What matters is the message:
Self-Advocacy Is Everything
Every disease, every condition I’ve ever faced could have been caught earlier—could have been prevented—if someone had listened to me.
Doctors dismissed me, gaslit me, and made me doubt my own reality. They told me I was imagining things or being overly sensitive. But deep down, I knew something was wrong. And I’ve learned the hard way that no one will advocate for you better than you can.
If you feel like something isn’t right—trust yourself.
No matter how many doctors dismiss you, no matter how many times you’re told “it’s all in your head,” stand up for yourself. Because your life matters. You matter.
Moving Forward
Infertility taught me that life doesn’t have to look like everyone else’s to be meaningful. It’s okay to grieve what you thought your life would be. It’s okay to feel the pain, but don’t let it define you.
God has a unique plan for each of us. While others may be walking their path, you are walking yours. And it is no less important, no less beautiful, and no less worthy of love.
A Message of Love
If you’re struggling—whether it’s infertility, a health battle, or something else entirely—know that you are not alone.
Your journey is valid, your pain is real, and your strength is greater than you think.
I love you.
If this message resonates with you, or if you think it could help someone you love, please share it. You never know whose life you might change with a little hope and encouragement. ❤️
