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Always Have to Have the Last Word… But What If We Changed the Conversation?

I’ve been reflecting on the state of the world, the chaos, the conflict, and the pain—and I’ve waited to speak because I wanted to contribute something meaningful. I wanted to bridge perspectives, not deepen the divides.

We’ve all heard the saying:
“There are three sides to every story.”

When it comes to controversy, it often plays out like this:

Some people agree with the issue at hand.
Some people strongly disagree.
And some sit in the middle, carefully considering all sides, questioning the status quo, and forming conclusions based on facts—not drama.

Unfortunately, in our polarized world, those who think critically and independently are often labeled as “crazy,” “in denial,” or “conspiracy theorists.” But here’s the truth: the answers we seek don’t lay in the noise—they lay in the quiet reflection of our own lives.

What’s Really Wrong with the World Today?

Our focus is all wrong.
Our priorities are misplaced.
And at the root of it all is pain—emotional, physical, and spiritual pain.

Pain influences everything:

It shapes our internal “vibe.”
It directs the majority of our thoughts and actions.
It creates cycles of negativity that we often can’t see, let alone break.

“What you focus on grows.”

If you focus on fear, injustice, or frustration, those feelings will grow, creating a ripple effect in your life. If you long for something but remain stuck in a place of lack, that energy will attract more of the same.

Breaking the Cycle

We repeat the same patterns over and over because we haven’t addressed the root cause: our mindset. Pain isn’t just physical; it’s deeply connected to our thoughts, emotions, and beliefs.

To change the world, we first have to change ourselves. This begins with the person in the mirror.

The Man in the Mirror

Michael Jackson had it right:
“If you want to make the world a better place, take a look at yourself and make a change.”

Here’s how:

Acknowledge the Pain – Don’t resist it; understand it.
Shift Your Focus – Stop dwelling on what’s wrong and start focusing on what’s possible.
Cultivate Gratitude – Gratitude shifts your perspective and raises your vibration.
Take Responsibility – Change begins within. If you want peace and love in the world, you must embody it yourself.
Trust God’s Plan – Preparation builds confidence, and faith removes doubt.

World Events and Politics

When we look at the chaos in the world—corruption, injustice, and division—it’s easy to feel overwhelmed. But let’s pause for a moment and ask:

Why is this happening?
What systems are broken, and how do we fix them?
What can each of us do to create positive change?

The answers aren’t simple, but the solution starts with shifting our focus.

A New Perspective on Change

Hurt people hurt people.
The anger and destruction we see stem from unhealed pain, and as long as that pain exists, it will continue to perpetuate harm.

Those in power understand this. They thrive on division, fear, and distraction. They know that as long as we’re focused on fighting each other, we won’t focus on challenging the systems that suppress us.

The change we need begins with:

Holding leaders accountable.
Electing representatives with integrity.
Engaging in reforms that serve the whole, not just the majority.

But most importantly, it begins with us.

The Power of Love and Compassion

Imagine a world where every person made the conscious choice to lead with love, kindness, and compassion.

Where we focused on improving ourselves, supporting each other, and building communities rooted in integrity.
Where we prioritized what’s right over what’s easy, and led by example in every aspect of life.

The Bible teaches us that love wins. And it does. But love requires action.

How We Begin to Fix It

Choose Love Over Fear – Fear divides; love unites.
Take Responsibility – Stop waiting for someone else to change the world and start with your own corner of it.
Lead by Example – Integrity is doing the right thing, even when no one is watching.
Stay Consistent – Healing, growth, and change take time. Be patient with the process.
Trust God’s Timing – When we’ve done the work, we can rest in the peace of knowing that His plan is perfect.